Thursday, July 30, 2020
Three things to make your day better
It is hard not to be discouraged and depressed these days. Worry about Covid. Stress over school. Social isolation. No church worship. Well, at least in terms of real fellowship. No hugs. No visits. No singing by each other. Money pressure. Job insecurity.
And all of that before I see the news and look at Facebook. Fear. Worry. Depression.
So I want to suggest three things that will really help start your day better. Setting a better tone if you will.
First is thankful prayers. I do pray about my worries. And I have a long list of requests. But I making it a point when I wake up to go over all the things I am thankful for, and that is a really long list. I have way more to be thankful for than I do things to worry about. Not the least of which is that my sins are forgiven and death will not be the end for me. But I have food. I have a great family. Great friends. My dogs. I am still healthy. Right now I have a job. Our neighborhood takes care of each other. You get the idea.
Praise time. Listen to some uplifting music. It is easy to find and so much better than listening to the news/fake news/uninformed news/wrong news they thought was right/right news that is wrong the next day. You get the idea. I am partial to Mercy Me, Big Daddy Weave, and contemporary praise. I like Praise and Harmony. It helps center your mind on better things.
Listen to a short devo. I am currently listening to Richard Blaisdell, Chris McCurley, and Tim Archer. But there are lots of good, short, uplifting things out there. I even have a YouTube Channel. So check it out. The point being that these will center your heart each day.
There are more things I could mention. I read at least a chapter a day in my Bible. I try to make one phone call to someone who needs to visit. I try to send at least one encouraging text. I actively seek out opportunities to do something for someone. I intentionally seek opportunities to ask people if we can talk about Jesus stories. And I try to spend some time with people that positive and uplifting.
The point is... you will be impacted by what you focus on. So I skip a lot of posts on Facebook. I look for Jesus and puppies and families on Facebook. Not politics, conspiracies, and gloom.
I think the three practices above will help you keep your eyes and heart on what matters.
Go God.
Labels: Life
Tuesday, July 28, 2020
Preaching, Writing, Stealing, Jesus, and Ethics
It is a difficult job to produce content about Jesus. Sermons, classes, articles, books, videos. Biblical, engaging, motivating, true, inspiring. Fresh. Writer's block. Saturday night panic. Deadline pressure. Desperate for an idea, a topic, an illustration.
So let me say a couple of things about stealing from other preachers. It happens all the time.
Many times it is an accident. You are really influenced by a writer or preacher. You end up sounding much like they do. And it may not even be conscious. You may not even remember where you heard something that really influenced your thinking. So it comes out in your preaching and writing. I even understand preacher exaggeration and spin.
And after all, most of what we are communicating has been talked about for thousands of years. So it becomes easy to "steal" material.
I appreciate preachers who give credit to those whose ideas they use. Citing sources. Or even "I heard somewhere", "I don't remember where I read this ', or even "you may have heard about...".
But what about preaching material that is clearly not yours. It has become trendy among some preachers to get sermons off the internet and preach them as if they were yours. And not tell anyone.
I was once sitting in the audience when a famous preacher (much more famous than I will ever be) told a story about an incident with his grandmother. At first I thought he had a grandmother much like mine because I had told a story from my life like that one many times in my preaching. By the time he got to the end of the story, it was identical to mine. I realized I was listening to someone tell my story as if it was theirs. He did not have to give me credit of course (may have just heard a college kid and not even known who I was), but he could have at least said "it is like the grandmother I once heard about...". So I went up to him afterward and asked about the story. He did not deny it, just said it was much more powerful told in the first person. And that the ends justified the means. He lied. And justified it.
And you would be amazed how many famous Christian authors do not write their own books. Some of them acknowledge this. Even give credit to their writers. Others treat ghost written books as if they were the actual author.
I do not have a problem with "stealing" material. Or with having someone write your books. As long as there is honesty and transparency. But I think there is a line that cannot be crossed. That is unethical. I would even say it negates the message if you are found out.
So to preachers, writers, speakers. As Jesus followers we have to be honest. I get the pressure. Deadlines, overwhelming speaking responsibilities, taking on more than you should. I live with it every day. And I know sometimes it is a fine line. So be careful.
But there is a line. There is a right and wrong.
You are better than that. Your people deserve better. So does Jesus.
So let's all try a little harder to do the right thing in the right way.
Do not take credit for what is not yours.
As for me, well... you always know most of my stuff is original. If I were going to steal, I would get better stuff than this. :)
Labels: Preaching
Thursday, July 23, 2020
Thinking about placing membership... or not.
One thing this pandemic has done is make me think a lot about the whole concept of church membership.
You know, the idea that we need to part of a distinct group of believers. Working in their programs. Sending them our contributions. Attending there. This is a thinking out loud blog. Not giving answers because I am not sure I have any yet. And I will even acknowledge that our personal situation may be really, really unique. Or it may not be. But here are some things that have made me wrestle with the whole membership/placing membership idea.
I have listened to many preachers during the pandemic shut-down but the four I listen to the most are Rick, Richard, Chris, and Tommy. They preach in Fort Worth, Plano, Abilene, and Fredericksburg.
We are members of a congregation we haven't attended in over a year. But I still do a lot of ministry with that church and many of its members.
The church where we have attended most is not where we are members.
Our contribution has gone to mission churches, individuals, medical bills, funeral expenses, and groceries for people all over.
I have preached in every Church of Christ in Abilene I think. If you count weddings and funerals, you can add several Baptist and Methodist churches.
Our small group has been together over twenty years and we don't go to church together.
The men I consider my spiritual shepherds/elders go to least four or five churches in Abilene.
When someone says church family, I think of people not congregations.
Our spiritual interactions/fellowship lately have been with people from Southern Hills, Oldham, Beltway, Highland, University, Remington Ridge, Hillcrest, and a few who aren't sure where they go. Or they are looking.
I have people from at least nine churches in town who consider me one of their elders. I know because they have told me when they call. They call me for spiritual counsel or when in spiritual crisis. I think they are family.
Abilene is strange. Lots of churches. Lots of choices. Lots of troop transfer. Not as much sheep stealing as you would think. In fact, I am not sure I know a church in town that actively seeks members from other churches. But people sure move around. Sometimes because the member changes. Sometimes because the church changes.
And before things shut down, I was doing a lot a preaching in places where all the churches together were few and far between. Where a church of fifty was a big church. And preaching in a couple of places where lots of churches are working together to reach people for Jesus.
And yes, I am aware of the differences -- sometimes major differences -- in how to approach the Bible. I do think that matters.
So I guess I am just wrestling with the whole concept of exclusive church/congregation membership.
And of course, membership is not even a formal process in Scripture. If you are a Christian, you are a member of the church. Somehow you do worship together, serve each other, and make more disciples.
So sorry if none of this makes sense. I am just trying to figure it out in my own mind.
And realizing that if God was not more clear about it, then maybe we/I have made too big a deal about it. So I love my church family. Wherever you are currently worshiping. Let me know if I can ever help.
Labels: Church
Tuesday, July 21, 2020
Four Things I Would Rethink about How We Do Church
In the midst of everything going on in our world, it is sometimes hard to think strategically and long-term. But since nothing is ever going to be quite like it was, I also think this may be the best time to rethink some things about how we do church. So here are three areas I think it might be wise to take a look.
But let me say one more thing first. I am not advocating a "right" or "wrong" answer. And different churches will do things in different ways. And I do know some churches are doing amazing ministry even during this time. Nor do I think I have all the answers. I am thinking about these things and a couple of them are things I have been concerned about for a long time. Some of them I am not even sure how I feel about them.
So...
Buildings. Why do we have them? Are they worth the resources expended on them? What are the alternatives? Multiple house churches under one eldership? Is the cost/benefit ratio for buildings a wise use of God's resources? Are there better alternatives to being able to meet together? Our buildings are generally designed around the ability to deliver a thirty minute sermon. Is that the most effective design?
Staff. Preachers. One thing this whole shut-down has done is let many of us hear lots of different preachers. Is video here to stay? Could preachers make more videos that are not congregation specific? I started a YouTube channel (blatant ad here -- please subscribe) because I guess that is what traveling preachers do when they cannot travel. I have found out these have been used for communion thoughts, discussion starters, and intros to house church worship. Is there a way to continue this?
Is it time to employ more elders? With so many people struggling with addictions, depression, relationships... maybe it is time to ask some elders to resign their jobs and work for their flock. How about evangelists? Is this the time to support/hire more evangelists? If God is opening doors to make disciples, shouldn't we be ready to go thru them?
What about Youth Ministers, Children Ministers, Education Ministers? Is it time to rethink these positions?
What about programs? Most churches are heavy on organized, structured programs for service, benevolence, spiritual growth. We can't do many of those programs right now. Is this a time to think more creatively about how to motivate, equip, and inspire our people to do more unstructured ministry. More of see the need, meet the need personally. Less admin and organization. More doing.
Finally, what about budgets? Most of our budgets are dominated by building and staff expense. What happens if we empower our people not to give all their donations to our budget? What if we turned them loose to give personally. Buy groceries, pay a bill, fix a car, help on a funeral.
Would it change everything if instead of dropping money into a plate (or in these times, drop it online), our people saw their money being dropped directly into people's lives?
I do realize that our church culture is so set and ingrained in most of us that it would take a radical disruption to think outside the box like this.
Maybe the time is now.
Labels: Church
Thursday, July 16, 2020
Our granddaughter Avery Grace is about to be a teenager
Our granddaughter Avery Gilbreth turns 13 in a couple of days. Here are a few of the reasons I love her and am proud of her. And these are the things I hope continue thru her teen years.
She is her own person. Avery makes up her own mind. She has her own style. She is not overly swayed by what everyone else decides to do. The teen years are full of peer pressure. Some of it good, but lots of it bad. I want her to keep her sense of self. To go her own way.
She is strong, a good athlete, and in really good shape physically. With all the hormones of the teen years, I pray she will keep taking care of herself physically. Gymnastics is her sport and I look forward to the next few years of competitive work.
Smart. I pray she does not stop working and learning. Teen years are tough to keep everything in perspective. Do not slack off on your studies.
People like the Ave. She is kind, friendly, and nice to everyone. She is quiet and shy until you get to know her and then she is funny and a delight to hang out with. People skills are valuable. But keep being a friend to everyone. Especially those who do not have anyone else.
I see spiritual signs of growth in you. Keep it up. You love animals. God made them and He expects us to care for them. You do. Your love your family. You love your Mimi and Pops. God put us in families so keep cherishing and caring for yours.
You will break a lot of hearts over the next few years. May even get your heart broken. Be smart about relationships. Choices have consequences. But it will be OK as long as you work on the one relationship that matters most. There is One who loves you more than anyone else every will. It will absolutely be your longest relationship. God and Jesus.
So Ave, your teen yours are when you get yourself ready for life on your own.
You will be a great teenager. Because you are a great kid. And that won't change.
God, bless our Ave. Keep her safe. Give her spiritual opportunities to grow into the person you want her to be. Do great things thru her. In Jesus.
Labels: Grandkids
Tuesday, July 14, 2020
Sweet Cindy, the Devil, and We Win Anyway
I did the memorial service/celebration of life for Cindy Thomas this morning. I have thought quite a bit about Cindy, the devil, and why God always wins.
Life was hard for Cindy. Broken relationships that could not be repaired no matter how hard she tried. Had to bury her son Matt after years of struggle with Cystic Fibrosis. Helped her husband John bury both his sons.
Then she got dementia. Which turned into Alzhiemer's. Then Covid came and kept everyone from getting to visit her.
The devil.
But here are three things about Cindy that remind me why Satan never wins.
Everyone called her Sweet Cindy. She was kind, sweet, and genuinely cared about people. She had every reason to be bitter. But she wasn't.
Her husband, John, sent me a description of how he saw Cindy. It was the list of the fruits of the Spirit. That is a very high compliment coming from the person who knows you the best. Satan could not stop God's work in Cindy's life.
My wife used to go see Cindy up until the shut-down. She would put Cindy's face in her hands and sing Jesus Loves Me. I saw it a couple of times. Cindy would mouth the words along with Marsha. I commented that those words were imprinted in her memory. No telling how many times she sang that song to her kids, or in Bible class, or in VBS. Marsha correctly pointed out that Jesus Loves Me was just imprinted in her memory, but in her soul.
No matter what, Satan was never going to separate Cindy from the love of God. Not death, or pandemic, or pain, or what other people might do. Nothing. Romans 8 in action.
Cindy was a spiritual hero that not many people know about.
So I tell you her story so you can be inspired. So you will know that no matter what Satan throws at you he cannot win. He only can win if you surrender.
So be strong and faithful until the end.
Thank you Cindy.
And thank you God.
Labels: Death
Friday, July 03, 2020
One more celebration of Joe Don and Jamie Ridgell
I write these very personal blogs occasionally because I want my people to know how special they are. I tell them but I think enough of them to say some things publicly.
So they just had their 20th anniversary. That is a big one. In our culture you do not really see as many 20 year anniversaries as you would think.
So here are a few quick things that make me proud about their twenty years.
They are still in love and they work at staying in love. They do date nights. They have get-away weekends.
They are great parents. That may be true because the kids are clearly 3rd in the heart order. They come behind Jesus and their folks. But they are ahead of anyone else.
Strong work ethic. They are both successful at their job. They are involved in ministry, both public and in those things no one knows about except those they help. They actively support their kids.
Their home is a ministry tool. Lots of people come to the Ridgell house. Their kids friends. The neighborhood kids. Their various church groups. Family. Friends. Those in need. Lots of meals go out of that house. Lots of prayers are said in that house.
They love Jesus. He is absolutely the center of their home. Everyone that knows them knows this to be true. By what they do and by what they say.
So I love them and am proud of them.
And to Joe Don and Jamie. Have fun getting away. Don't worry about the kids. What happens with Mimi and Pops stays with Mimi and Pops.
Thanks God for Joe Don and Jamie. Give them a long life together serving you.
Labels: Joe Don